Just Call Me Grandma
October 2017
The question of “what will they call you” came up in every conversation
with women these past months as I shared the news that my daughter was
pregnant. Long conversations ensued, sharing the stories from other women who’ve
traveled this road before me. Do we get the choose? Will the child choose for
us? What names are out there to choose from?
Bubbe, Mimi & Gigi: The
Best Grandmother Name Book Ever: The Best Grandmother Name Book Ever (Volume 1)
Paperback – July 21, 2012
by Cathy Caputo Livingstone
(As I write this, I’m noticing
that I didn’t have this conversation with any men. Just noticing…)
Then my daughter - in her
enthusiasm for this next big transition in our lives - would ask “Have you decided yet”? When I would say no, I’m still
thinking, she would threaten that if I didn’t choose, her husband would and I
probably wouldn’t like what he decided.
I was leaning towards “Miss Sue” - a name my friends’ children call me. It sounds
sophisticated, old-world, respectful and a little fun. A name children
would call an adult that also allows for “plausible
deniability” that the child using that name is in any way related to me, is my
grandchild, and, by inference, allowing me to claim that I’m not old enough to
have grandchildren.
Because, really, isn’t that
what this is about? An extension of the age-defying generation I belong to.
Color your hair, remove the wrinkles, stay active and fit, dress like a
teenager - can’t you see the ads that tell us to do everything except “act your age”.
While attending a birthday
party for my grand-nephew, this “grandmother name” conversation
came up with a young woman who I respect because she will tell you exactly what
she thinks. “What is it with your generation,
that Grandma isn’t good enough for you?” she asked with a little exasperation
and a smile.
Years ago, I let my hair go to
it’s natural color - white. I stopped using make-up and moisturizer. I no
longer wear heels. I move through the world more aligned with how I really am.
So, with the grandbaby on the
way, why not go with what is?
I’m a grandmother.
Just call me Grandma.
Welcome - Brynn Louis, born
October 22, 2017
Sue McLeod
October 2017
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